5 Ways to FIX Your BFF Drama [1 Chronicles 12:2-22]

Let’s face it, friendships can be messy.

Even the faith-based kind can hit some serious bumps in the road.

Remember the moments when a disagreement about the best praise song turned into a full-blown Holy Spirit intervention situation?

What about a last Bible study, which involved avoiding eye contact, passive-aggressive Bible quotes, and a lot of awkward coughing?

Sound familiar?

But before you hit that “unfriend” button, here’s the good news;

1 Chronicles 12:2-22 is packed with wisdom on how to go from “throwing shade” to “casting out all bitterness” in friendship fails.

Yes, you can fix those BFF blowouts and turn your friendship squad from “barely talking” to “prayer warriors taking on giants together.”

Let’s dive into the 5 key principles for turning that BFF drama into a beautiful testament to the power of forgiveness, communication, and God’s never-ending grace.

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5 Ways to Fix Your BFF Drama [1 Chronicles 12:2-22]

#1 – Shared Values

“They were armed with bows, and could use both the right hand and the left in hurling stones and shooting arrows out of a bow, even of Saul’s brethren of Benjamin.” [1 Chronicles 12:2]

This passage highlights the warriors’ skill with weaponry, but their true strength lay deeper.

Verse 2 describes them as “armed with bows…even of Saul’s brethren of Benjamin.”

These warriors from Saul’s tribe had much to gain by remaining loyal to the established King Saul.

Yet, they chose David. Why? Because they recognized God’s hand in David’s leadership.

Similarly, in our friendships, shared Christian values serve as the bedrock.

We should seek friends who walk a similar path and who understand our struggles and aspirations in Christ.

This doesn’t mean cookie-cutter personalities or identical backgrounds.

David’s mighty men came from diverse tribes, each with unique strengths and experiences.

But they were united by their core beliefs – their faith in God and their commitment to righteousness.

#2 – Synergy

“And Ismaiah the Gibeonite, a mighty man among the thirty, and over the thirty; and Jeremiah, and Jahaziel, and Johanan, and Josabad the Gederathite” [1 Chronicles 12:4]

David’s army seemed to be organized in groups of thirty.

Just as soldiers operate most effectively in coordinated units, so too do we thrive within Christian communities.

Look for friends who complement your strengths and weaknesses.

Some friends may excel at offering encouragement, while others provide a strong foundation of prayer support.

Together, we become a powerful force, each member contributing to the overall well-being of the “body of Christ” [1 Corinthians 12:27].

#3 – Vulnerability

“These are they that went over Jordan in the first month, when it had overflown all his banks; and they put to flight all them of the valleys, both toward the east, and toward the west.” [1 Chronicles 12:15]

The Gadites joined David “in the first month when the Jordan had overflown all his banks.”

This imagery highlights the potential dangers they faced when crossing a flooded river.

Yet, their commitment to David was unwavering.

True friendship thrives on vulnerability.

Sharing our struggles, doubts, and joys with trusted companions allows us to connect on a deeper level.

When we open ourselves up, we create space for genuine encouragement and support.

Remember, vulnerability is not weakness; it’s the courage to be authentic and allow others to walk alongside us through life’s journey.

#4 – Holy Spirit Hype

“Then the spirit came upon Amasai, who was chief of the captains, and he said, Thine are we, David, and on thy side, thou son of Jesse: peace, peace be unto thee, and peace be to thine helpers; for thy God helpeth thee. Then David received them, and made them captains of the band.” [1 Chronicles 12:18]

The passage describes “the Spirit [coming] upon Amasai.”

This empowering presence of the Holy Spirit is crucial for both individual and collective Christian growth.

The Holy Spirit equips us with the gifts and abilities needed to serve God and build each other up.

As we cultivate friendships within the Holy Spirit’s presence, our faith journeys are enriched.

We learn from each other’s experiences, are challenged to grow in our understanding of scripture, and are empowered to overcome obstacles through shared prayer and support.

#5 – Sense of Belonging

“For at that time day by day there came to David to help him, until it was a great host, like the host of God.” [1 Chronicles 12:22]

There was an ever-growing army that rallied around David.

This image emphasizes the importance of community in the Christian walk.

We all need a “real-life squad” – a group of friends who celebrate our victories, big and small, hold us accountable in our walk with Christ, and offer unwavering support through life’s challenges.

These friendships provide a sense of belonging, a haven where we can be ourselves and grow in our faith.

Building these real, lasting friendships takes time and intentionality.

Seek out opportunities to connect with other believers in your church community, small groups, or online forums.

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